Generosity is the Mightifier Strength of the Month in May
Many of our readers are probably familiar with popular Wharton professor Adam Grant’s model of givers, takers and matchers. Takers are people who are trying to take all advantages out of other people around. Their motivation to do something is to ask if it benefits themselves somehow. Givers instead are benevolent human beings who really are interested in the wellbeing of others. They are willing to make an effort for somebody else’s sake and do not expect anything in return. Matchers are people who believe in tit for tat philosophy. If somebody is nice to me, I’m nice to them. I do someone a favour to be able to ask for a favor back.
Guess who of these three types are most successful in life; takers, givers or matchers? Some might say takers of course: they are not afraid to clear obstacles from their way to success, they know how to arrange things for their benefit and nice guys always finish last, right? Others might think that it’s matchers: the perfect balance, help those who help you and the future is bright.
However, according to Grant, the most successful people are not takers or matchers. They are givers: Generous people who share their knowledge, networks and time and are willing to help others even when there’s no immediate payback on the horizon are more likely to thrive. By helping others succeed, it’s likely that you too will succeed!
Helping others does not only make you successful, but according to research, it also makes you happier and healthier! For example, Stephen Post states that there is a strong correlation between altruistic behavior and health. Post suggests that helping behavior and compassion are so important, that they should be embraced even in the public health care level.
Sometimes people think being generous is the same thing as being a philanthropist. However, you don’t have to donate your property or money to charity to be generous. You can be a giver in many different ways. Here’s 10 ideas for using the strength of generosity to make people around you happy. And remember, it also brings joy to your life!
- Take a cup of coffee to your colleague
- Offer to give a foot massage to your partner
- Make an introduction between two people who you know
- Volunteer for an event
- Donate your old blankets to a shelter
- Bake buns for work
- Throw a party to your friends
- Offer to help your colleague in their project, even when you are busy, too.
- Schedule a moment to spend time with your grand parents
- Promise to mentor a student or junior employee
Which one are you going to try first?
Grant, A. (2014). Give and take: Why helping others drives our success. Penguin.
Post, S. G. (2005). Altruism, Happiness, and Health: It’s Good to Be Good. International Journal of Behavioral Medicine, 12(2), 66-77.